This is the introductory essay from this week’s issue of my weekly newsletter, Life Is So Beautiful. The entire newsletter, including links to five things I thought were beautiful, can be found here.
I turned 54 on the 5th of June. I know, I find it hard to believe myself. In my head I’m still 18, but a few months ago, I got a leg cramp while eating a taco.
But Friday was a beautiful day, and the orange ditch lilies were in bloom at the bottom of our driveway, and I had been invited to do a reading from Food Is Love on Saturday at the Jimmie Roger’s museum in Meridian, MS for The Mississippi June Bugs Literary & Musical Society. Yes, that’s their real name! So, I took Friday off and we went to Meridian a day early.
We went to the oldest restaurant in MS for lunch, and then hit up used bookstores and thrift stores before checking into the Threefoot Hotel, which is the nicest place in Meridian, and probably in this part of Mississippi. Marble and brass everywhere, and large hotel room with big views, all courtesy of The June Bugs. It was lovely. Then, we went to the annual convening of The June Bugs for supper at The Maxx, which is Meridian’s art and entertainment center.
On Saturday I did my first ever reading (which is not really true—I preach from a manuscript every Sunday, but reading from your book is different than that, somehow) and it was a blast. And when I had sold and signed all the books I had brought with me, we went to a local Mexican restaurant and ate our fill of enchiladas before the hour and a half drive home.
It was a lovely 24 hours away, and as close to a vacation as we have taken in almost a year, since my losing that job last year that had health insurance attached to it. Since then it has been a series of gigs and contract positions, which has paid our bills, more or less, but which hasn’t left either the income or the bandwidth for vacation.
But the time away was generative, and the joy of hanging out with my wife/friend and doing nothing very urgent and laughing and coming home with a stack of books is crucial to my mental health.
Long ago, I had a mentor tell me, when I said I could not do something, that the best way to reframe that was to ask myself “How can I do it?” And so, on the way home, Renee and I talked about how we can get away more, even though we cannot afford long trips to the beach or jaunts to Europe.
We can explore Mississippi, for example, where nothing is more than 3 hours away. A day trip to the coast to the south or the Appalachian foothills to the north would just cost us gas money if we didn’t stay overnight. If it was a flush week, throw in a night at the Hampton inn and we would even get breakfast as part of the deal. I like the idea of being a tourist in my own state.
Right now, I know a lot of us are struggling. Not all of us can do the things we used to do. If that’s you, maybe try what we did: Instead of being angry you cannot do a thing, ask yourself how you can do it. You might surprise yourself.